27 December 2012
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17 August 2012
I've come to realize that I just don't have time for alot of things. Not just the fact that my work hours are ridiculous and I'm currently doing online classes....I just lack the desire or patience to DEAL WITH alot of things. Some things I've been able to ignore at times or just take it as it is because that's what I'm "used to". Some I've never been too keen on putting up with but at some point you just have to. For example, half a$$ friends. I have no use for you in my life currently. Like seriously, if you only come around (and by this I mean reach out at all) when it's convenient only to you or beneficial to you....seriously..you can go ----> THAT WAY! I can do bad all by myself.
I also don't have time for immaturity. Never have....yea and most definitely never will. I'm grown and I can barely deal with kids doing childish things....so I most definitely will not standby and deal with an adult acting like they are toddlers. Tantrums, being needy, playing games,..... yea those type things. If this is how you roll, just steer clear of me and mine.
Stupidity in general. Yea I can't deal. Some things are just obvious. It's basically a flood outside...umbrellas everywhere...you ask is it raining? Yea that type of stupidity....expect a smart a$$ SARCASTIC response. Yea I can't expect everyone to be as intelligent as I am on certain things, but there is a certain level of KNOWLEDGE that I believe everyone should possess unless they have been deemed clinically/medically slower than others.
Games -- yea I barely play video games and board games aren't my style...so the mind games, emotional games, bullsh@t games.....nope. Not gonna be able to do it. It's alot of this going around these days. Why bother? Who benefits from this...especially when you aren't a good player of the game(s) you try and play. Keep it moving!!!
I also don't have time hearing problems over and over in which advice is requested and yet the same behavior and nonsense continue. Please save it. You must like dealing with the drama or situation otherwise you would change something. If you like it..then I love it. I'll listen but please don't expect words of comfort or "friendly advice" once we've discussed the exact same thing maybe twice. I'm done with it. Until YOU decide to change it...you are accepting things the way they are. So it is what it is.....deal with it!
I have no time for needy individuals looking for handouts but never willing to work for anything themselves. These same people are the ones who never want to help anybody else either. It's one thing to scratch my back and I scratch yours...but seriously....have you even TRIED to help yourself??? I can't do NOTHING FOR YA MAN *in my Flavor Flav voice* I have no time for clingy people..go away...don't you have some other friends or people you can harass or worry all day! Is your name Saran...as in Saran Wrap?!?! GTFOH!!!!! Like a damn gnat in the ear!!!
I have no time for copy cats. In the words of my girl Lil Kim..."get your own SH*T, why you ridin' mine?" I've always been this way..never liked people close to me to have exactly what I had. It works my nerves. Everything I get...you get. Everything I say, you say. Really!?!?! You can't like EVERYTHING I like...EVERYTHING I eat....EVERY move I make..you gotta make it to. Come on....BE YOU! God wanted it that way otherwise you would've been me!
I guess that's all I care to vent about today Blog World. Until next time......XOXOXOX "SMOOCHES"
30 July 2012
I also find it funny that people (who call themselves friends mind you) always seem to find time to do stuff with others and never feed them the bulls**t stories that you always seem to get. Like I'm really not hurt by this...however do me a favor and just keep it real. I've learned to already expect you not to come through with your end of the bargain...so do us both a favor and save the lies for someone else.
Yea...quite funny that the ones who will often times help you the most when you are down are the ones you don't get alot of time with. That you'd probably least expect to reach out a hand. Through my own recent experiences..it was truly shocking to me the people that SAID they were there ...don't hesitate to ask for ANYTHING..knowing damn well I never ASK for anything..yet knowing what was what....offered nothing. Not even their time. So with that said....as they do with the weakest link....some had to be dismissed. It is what it is. My circle is becoming transparent because I have no time for part time or past time friends...what are past time friends...the ones who are only around when they have nothing to do and need some entertainment. Sorry I didn't apply for that job and don't want it. You either with me or you can do without me. I'm done obligating myself to others who clearly could care less about what is really going on with me. My life must go on and WITHOUT certain individuals. I wish them all well with their selfish motives and ways.
08 July 2012
There's very few things I despise more than to have my time misused or wasted. Time is something you can't get back. So trust that if I am giving you some of MY time, it says alot. Anytime someone is willing to give up or to give you something that cannot be replaced it shouldn't be taken lightly. It's like being handed over a family heirloom or a personalized item. It can never be recreated. When it's gone, it's gone. So why must people who are given time not appreciate it and treat it as something that can not be given back?!?! If you say you are going to do something, DO IT! If plans change and you can not follow through....then LET SOMEBODY KNOW! I can't stand waiting on anybody as is...but to be waiting on something that isn't going to transpire at all...when all the while the other party knew they were not going through with the original plan. I personally don't get it and I never will. What kills me even more is that people I deal with KNOW how I value my time. Being on time is LATE to me. I like being early to everything, so to be late or to just not do something at all with my time that was prearranged is grounds for friendship dismissal or at least a good cursing out. Maybe "you" don't value your time and you don't care when people cancel plans on you without notice...however, I do. A little consideration goes a long way. All the while you lollygagging and/or not doing what you said you were doing, I'm left wondering IF things are still going down....missing out on OTHER opportunities or the chance to find your replacement. I know that some people just like to beat their gums...and like to say that they are going to do things even knowing when they say it that they aren't trying to do a daggone thing. Usually you can already say....I'm not even counting on that to happen. It's the wishy washy people for which I speak of. When it's something to benefit them in someway...they THERE. When it's not......you never know what to expect. And I shouldn't have to contact YOU at the time of meetup/leaving/whatever to see what the status is to be given some bogus information. Information that says to be....you've known ALL day or at least for hours that this was the case. Why did you not say something before now? Or you miraculously remember you already had plans....REALLY!?!?!? How did you forget your sister's bday party??? REALLY? Something of that importance you just HAPPENED to forget was the day you made plans with me. Alrighty then......
09 May 2012
01 April 2012
Ever have a time in your life when you must decide between this or that? Whether it be an outfit, a destination, a job, a plan, a person. We all have. And how often do we think we just might have chosen the WRONG one. Didn't think things through completely!?! Yea yea...I know..everything happens for a reason...so if you were MEANT to make that choice or what not then that's what would have went down. YADDA YADDA YADDA. And yea I know if it's meant to be it'll come back around....okay so what if it does? And you STILL let it slip away!?! I can say I've been there and done that. All the what ifs, could've, should've, would've BS always rings back. Thinking about how different life might be had this occurred or had I said this or done things this way. Yet I realize..it is what it freakin' is. And can't beat myself up for passing up what I THINK just might have been an opportunity for something better...greater....SUPER!!! Sometimes we fail to look at the bigger picture though. The lessons we would not have learned had things turned out another way. The people we would not have met along the way had we dealt with the "other person". Life is amazing..it's tough...not doubt it's a bitch!!! But hey we all gotta live it...ONE DAY AT A TIME! I realize I've made the choices I've made in life for one reason or another. Not for others but for me...and although I can say some of those I've kinda had a little regret about. It's no point in dwelling on those decisions nor the past. What's meant for me will happen...not when I am ready for it to happen but whenever it's supposed to happen. I'm ready for it...whatever it is. I just hope it's ready for me!! :-) I know what I WANT out of life and I know that I'm willing to do whatever it takes to get those things. Some are just out of my reach or aren't just up to me. Some require to cooperation and mutual understanding of others. Once they get on board...the "ship" can sail the high seas! ALL ABOARD!!!!!!
SN: Yes this entry was kinda sorta all over the place....but hey..so are my thoughts and feelings at the moment. It's like that sometimes.
18 February 2012
Reason, Season, or Lifetime
People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
When you figure out which one it is,
you will know what to do for each person.
When someone is in your life for a REASON,
it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty;
to provide you with guidance and support;
to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.
They may seem like a godsend, and they are.
They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time,
this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.
Some people come into your life for a SEASON,
because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it. It is real. But only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons;
things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person,
and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.
26 January 2012
It's a shame how childish people act at their ages. There are times to "play" and there are times to be serious. There also comes a time that you put the games away. Ladies: the jealousy, the side chick mentality, the backstabbing, the hoe like behavior.....none of that is EVER really age appropriate...but seriously, when you've gotten to the age of working and paying bills and doing what ADULTS do....the elementary school and high school tactics and activities need to be thrown out of the door. Why are you fighting and beefing over HIM...who has lied to HER about YOU and your position? Check him!!! When it's all said and done....you fight to win a loser!?!? Really though. Why are you playing head games with guys to get material things? For real though, why are you only going after guys who have material things? Yea, he has the hottest whip, he's iced up, all the latest Jordans....but he can barely count to 10. You can't take him to the company functions because he doesn't even own a suit...oh wait...yes he does...the one for court. Stop being so petty and stop chasing what glitters (or so you think)...there's far more to life and a MAN than what material things and monetary things he can provide. GUYS: Why are you at 35+ still trying to play the field?? It's time to retire from the game. You are no longer qualified to be a player. It's not cute. You jumping from this one to that one...refusing to commit...refusing to settle...so scared that you are going to miss the next jumpoff that comes your way. Reality check: it's going to be a lonely miserable life later on when the jumpoffs have GROWN up and wised up. When you are old and by your lonesome with nobody genuinely there to care and love you. Nope...keep the jumpoffs...they love spending social security checks. Growing up doesn't mean the fun has to stop....it means the fun has to change! You can't keep doing all of the things you USED to do. There's an age limit. It's time to it go.
17 January 2012
It also bothers me that people don't learn from their past mistakes or others. You say you want this or that....and then you run right back to the "light".....the headlights of a train about to cause a wreck in what is your life. What looks good to you isn't always good for you! You have to look at the bigger picture. What exactly is being contributed to you and your life? Anything worthwhile? Anything with longevity? If it's just temporary thrills and chills.....let it go. Real talk....you will miss out on the BEST trying to fool with what you think is BETTER than GOOD!