02 April 2011

My Warning Label

People always ASSUME they know you or what you are about, however, if they aren't in your TRUE immediate circle then they are really making assumptions or going off of only what they do know or what someone else has told them. Well, if you want to know me in a nutshell..then know that I am HONEST. I look out for my FRIENDS. If I consider you a FRIEND and not an associate or someone to just hang out with to get out of the house (yep some people fall right into that category)...then know that I have your back. Nobody (not even ANOTHER "FRIEND")will have a pass to talk negatively about you in my presence. With that being said, my opinions and thoughts and actions are just that....MINE! I am not the president, GOD, a dictator, the Queen, etc. so I would hope that I do not have followers except on Twitter and those who "follow" this blog. I get accused of passing my opinions on others ALL the time. Crazy thing is, most of the time it's people who are older than me. Really? I didn't know I was that powerful that I can make someone do a total 180 about their feelings towards something or someone. And likewise, who my friends like, where they go, what they do, who they do.....that is on THEM. That does not mean that is how I roll or what I think. I am my own person. I live my own life and make my own decisions. If you don't like it...you don't have to deal with it. People I choose to have in my circle are MY choice. Trust and believe that I think out EVERYTHING that I do. I don't do anything just because it's the "in" thing to do....or because that's what one of my friends thinks/does...or because someone told me I should. Every decision I make is MY own and I take responsibility for each and every one of those decisions. I have a reason for doing the things I do. I look out for those who look out for me....shit on me...and get shitted on. I am not a "Tit for Tat" kind of person...instead I let the natural flow of things occur. I totally believe in Karma so I don't even have to retaliate. So if/when I chose to not ride with, be cool with, associate with, and/or discuss my life with certain individuals anymore....it's not because I just woke up and wanted to be a b***h that day. It's because I have reason to. It's 2011, and I'm done having negative/phony/immature/trifling people around me. If you aren't adding value to my life then you are being subtracted from it. Enough said. I have enough genuine people in my life that the loss of a FEW bad apples won't stop the harvest.

I'm not the most emotional person. I don't wear my feelings on my sleeve and because of this I probably come off harsh to those who do. I don't smile alot, unless I'm acting completely crazy around friends and fam which is what I enjoy doing. I like being around people who like to ENJOY themselves. Can't stand being around uptight, death of the party kind of individuals. The insecure need to keep it moving!

My life is changing ALOT these days...and definitely for the better. I've come to realize plenty of things within myself that I needed to change in order to achieve things I want to achieve. I've also come to realize that some things I thought I needed/wanted in my life, weren't really the business. All that glitters isn't gold and I believe some of these "wishful thoughts" were definitely gold plated. I'm ready for whatever life has in store for me. I've been through plenty of storms and rain, I feel that my rainbow is on its way!


Beautiful Mystery said...

I feel you 100% . . many people who try to fit in your circle are only there to see what you're up to - being nosy and hating from the sideline . . I've had to start weeding people out, too . . so many people bring nothing but drama and negativity . . that's too stressful and makes you lose your focus . . in these days and times, you can't really worry about hurt feelings . . you have to do you for you . . everybody that's in your corner isn't rooting for you . . it's a hard lesson to learn and even harder to let go of "friends" but sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do . .

Miss Toya said...

Agreed! I'm definitely beyond the worry of hurting feelings. If you don't genuinely care about me and mine...trust I can be DONE in a second with you. I definitely have a super small circle right now. It's just not even worth it...you learn that sometimes you ad friends go through stuff and if the friendship withstands those tests or return to the same level later on...it's no doubt a friendship that's meant to be. We can attest to this. :-)