Dear Summer

Dear Summer,

I write to you today to let you know that although you are welcome on your PLANNED arrival date of the 21st of this month, it appears you are being very impatient and have already sent some of your "luggage" ahead of time. Your sun, heat, and storms have been creating quite a stir for a few weeks now. Although I love the time of year in which you make your way into town, sometimes the things you bring with you are not as welcomed. I am not sure where you are right now because I would gladly send you your "luggage" back and maybe you could pack a new set of things to bring along with you. Please don't take any of this the wrong way! I don't want any trouble when you do get here! I know how it is to want to go somewhere and being impatient, but we are trying to enjoy Spring right now. We haven't seen much of "her" in the last few years because you have rained on her parade and decided to hit the area sooner than you were scheduled to. Please be patient and KIND. It's only fair. Trust me, I love seeing you way more than your cousin Winter. The snow, sleet, and ice she brings is the absolute worst. I know you can agree since you 2 do NOT get along and are never seen together. They say opposites attract but I guess not in the case of you two. But anyway, I'll see you on the 21st of June. And not a day sooner.....RIGHT!?!?

P.S. Could you bring me a vacation also?? Thanks in advance!

Move....Get Out The Way

You ever feel like the world and everything and everybody else around you are moving but you aren't!?!? Like everyone else is making progress in life but you are just at a standstill. That's where I am right now. Like even with all the changes I've dealt with and experienced in a matter of a few months, nothing really is different. Same ol NOTHINGNESS! Not even sure if this is the best way to describe it. Not one to knock anybody elses hustle or movement, I say if you can move...MOVE. I'm just impatiently awaiting my turn I guess you could say. Maybe it's just me. The opportunities that seem to present themselves to me tend to be those of which I don't want to partake in or deal with. Most are those in which I have faced before and I don't see how going down that road again will lead to anything GOOD if it didn't the first time. Could this be what's halting my movement? Maybe....I could very well be the anchor that's keeping me in one spot. A spot I no longer desire to be at. I'm ready to MOVE!!! The song says..."move if you wanna...."...well I want to! Just wondering who's going to move with me!

I Quit

I got this from a friend who got it from a friend that got it from a friend...(you follow???) And I love it...so I'm posting it here to share it with others. Good words to live by. Need more people to follow these rules and guidelines. Real talk!!!

1. Quit arguing with people about the same old foolishness! Respect their position and keep it moving!

2. Quit telling people your secrets when you know they are not going to keep them! And if you keep telling them, then quit getting mad when they tell your secrets!

3.. Quit trying to pull people on your journey who don't want to travel with you. Either they believe in you and value you...or they don't!

4. Quit complaining about things you can't and won't change!

5. Quit gossiping about other people! Minding our own business should be a full time job!

6. Quit blaming each other for things that in the big picture aren't going to matter three weeks from now! Talk solutions...and then implement them!

7. Quit eating things you know are not good for you! If you can't quit...eat smaller portions!

8. Quit buying things when we know we can't afford them! If you don't have self control, then quit going to the stores! Quit charging things, especially when you don't NEED them!

9. Quit staying in unhealthy relationships! It is not okay for people to verbally or physically abuse you! So quit lying to yourself! It is not okay to stay in the marriage for the children! Ask them and they will tell you that they really would prefer to see you happy and that the misery you and your spouse/partner are living with is affecting them!

10. Quit letting family members rope you into the drama! -Start telling them you don't want to hear it! Quit spreading the drama! Quit calling other relatives and telling them about your cousin or aunt! Go back to #5 minding your own business should be enough to keep you busy!

11. Quit trying to change people! IT DOESN'T WORK! Quit cussing people out when you know that they are just being the miserable and jealous people that they are!

12. Quit the job you hate! Start pursuing your passion. Find the job that fuels your passion BEFORE you quit!

13. Quit volunteering for things that you aren't getting any personal fulfillment from anymore! Quit volunteering for things and then failing to follow through with your commitment!

14. Quit listening to the naysayers! Quit watching the depressing news if you are going to live in the doom and gloom of it all!

15. Quit making excuses about why you are where you are or why you can't do what you want to do!

16. Quit waiting on others to give you the answers...and start finding the answers for yourself! If what you are doing isn't working for you...then quit it!

17. Quit settling and start making your dreams a reality!- Quit being afraid and START LIVING YOUR LIFE! CREATE THE LIFE YOU WANT! If you want something different than what you have had in the past...you must quit doing what you have done before and DO something different! JUST QUIT IT ....... and START DOING something to create the experience you want!


"Life is short, but there is always time enough for courtesy and kindness."

Not what you thought huh?

~~~ ** ORIGINAL AUTHOR UNKNOWN ** ~~~~

Starting over....

Starting all over again, is gonna be rough. So rough....but we're gonna make it!

You ever put all your hard work, time and effort into something and then at the very end realize that the end result is just not what you wanted? Like you were building a house out of toothpicks...felt as if you laid each one side by side perfectly, applied just the right amount of glue, shaped it and made it just like you wanted and just as you get down to the final few toothpicks you look at it and all of a sudden the house is lopsided. Yep, that's how I feel right now about a few of my "works in progress". Happy up until a certain extent and then....not so satisfied with the end result. In some cases, I can't figure out WHAT is skewing my view of the project. Why exactly am I not so happy with it? Can't quite put my finger on it. What's even worse is when others see what I have done or the work thus far and think it's great or going well and deep down I just can't agree. So what do I do? Do I patch up my "work" to pacify myself? Do I trash it completely and just say forget about it? Do I start a whole new project that's totally different? Or do I start from scratch on the same one, just from a different angle or using a different method? That's where I'm stuck like chuck as they say (whoever "they" are). Starting over can be a hard thing, but sometimes it's necessary in order to get the result that you need or want. I guess each situation is different and the required step(s) to the desired ending are also different. It takes time and alot of thought to figure out exactly what each "work" needs in order to prevail and be successful. For now...I guess I wait. Both ears and eyes open...for a sign that says how to proceed. It'll definitely be with caution!

Time

They say absence makes the heart grow fonder , but time always allows for people to grow apart. Sometimes there is good reason to distance one's self from someone else. Whether it be a break, opportunity, disagreement, and sometimes it's just life. Moving on with your life sometimes means leaving others behind. People who do not contribute anything positive to your life or situation are people not necessary. Seasonal individuals are often in your life just for a short period of time...to serve some purpose and then they are gone. Often times this leaves a person feeling as if their time was wasted, but trust that it was not. This person might've showed you something within yourself that you didn't know. They might've given you some sort of life lesson about who and who not to deal with or how to handle certain things.

Time is something of importance to me. Being the impatient person that I am, I like to be ON time and I also don't like to feel that my time has been wasted. Those two things are a HUGE thing for me. I know that some things take time. You shouldn't RUSH into situations, relationships, agreements, etc. This I know....but I know that I value my time. Don't like to miss opportunities because someone else has agreed to use a certain "block" of time and because of this I turn down other offers for this time. A little consideration of others and communication is all it takes to make the difference between MAD/UPSET and understanding.

Time is precious and it should be treated as such. We don't know when our time will be up...so we have to make the most of the time we DO have!

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My Warning Label

People always ASSUME they know you or what you are about, however, if they aren't in your TRUE immediate circle then they are really making assumptions or going off of only what they do know or what someone else has told them. Well, if you want to know me in a nutshell..then know that I am HONEST. I look out for my FRIENDS. If I consider you a FRIEND and not an associate or someone to just hang out with to get out of the house (yep some people fall right into that category)...then know that I have your back. Nobody (not even ANOTHER "FRIEND")will have a pass to talk negatively about you in my presence. With that being said, my opinions and thoughts and actions are just that....MINE! I am not the president, GOD, a dictator, the Queen, etc. so I would hope that I do not have followers except on Twitter and those who "follow" this blog. I get accused of passing my opinions on others ALL the time. Crazy thing is, most of the time it's people who are older than me. Really? I didn't know I was that powerful that I can make someone do a total 180 about their feelings towards something or someone. And likewise, who my friends like, where they go, what they do, who they do.....that is on THEM. That does not mean that is how I roll or what I think. I am my own person. I live my own life and make my own decisions. If you don't like it...you don't have to deal with it. People I choose to have in my circle are MY choice. Trust and believe that I think out EVERYTHING that I do. I don't do anything just because it's the "in" thing to do....or because that's what one of my friends thinks/does...or because someone told me I should. Every decision I make is MY own and I take responsibility for each and every one of those decisions. I have a reason for doing the things I do. I look out for those who look out for me....shit on me...and get shitted on. I am not a "Tit for Tat" kind of person...instead I let the natural flow of things occur. I totally believe in Karma so I don't even have to retaliate. So if/when I chose to not ride with, be cool with, associate with, and/or discuss my life with certain individuals anymore....it's not because I just woke up and wanted to be a b***h that day. It's because I have reason to. It's 2011, and I'm done having negative/phony/immature/trifling people around me. If you aren't adding value to my life then you are being subtracted from it. Enough said. I have enough genuine people in my life that the loss of a FEW bad apples won't stop the harvest.

I'm not the most emotional person. I don't wear my feelings on my sleeve and because of this I probably come off harsh to those who do. I don't smile alot, unless I'm acting completely crazy around friends and fam which is what I enjoy doing. I like being around people who like to ENJOY themselves. Can't stand being around uptight, death of the party kind of individuals. The insecure need to keep it moving!

My life is changing ALOT these days...and definitely for the better. I've come to realize plenty of things within myself that I needed to change in order to achieve things I want to achieve. I've also come to realize that some things I thought I needed/wanted in my life, weren't really the business. All that glitters isn't gold and I believe some of these "wishful thoughts" were definitely gold plated. I'm ready for whatever life has in store for me. I've been through plenty of storms and rain, I feel that my rainbow is on its way!

20 Random Facts About Me!

These are 20 things that probably only my very very close friends and fam would know. Some are probably super duper crazy....but hey...that's me! :-)


20. I love horses!
19. I had an older sister. RIP Pamela Latrice Jones
18. I have 5 tattoos and I probably have about 4 more to come...at least.
17. I've traveled UP the East Coast...but Roanoke Rapids, NC is as far south as I've been.
16. I've never eaten lobster.
15. I've only been drunk 3 times in my 32 years.
14. I'm allergic to mosquito bites.
13. I got electrocuted by an electric fence playing Simon Says once. I won though!
12. I used to be pretty popular in the web design world. *I miss that hobby*
11. I like the smell of a burned out match! **crazy I know**
10. I love potatoes of any sort and could eat them every day (au gratin, mashed, fries, baked...)
9. I almost got arrested at Kings Dominion with my BFF! But we outran security.
8. Volleyball is my favorite sport.
7. I almost drowned when I was about 4 yrs old.
6. I've always wished that I could dunk a basketball.
5. "Achy Breaky Heart" by Billy Ray Cyrus used to be my jam! *don't judge me*
4. My brother named my dog "Jigga"...it has NOTHING to do with JayZ..im not a fan!
3. I still have 3 of my wisdom teeth. *strange...but only 1 was pulled*
2. I wear entirely too much black.
1. I despise the mall....in fact...I can't stand shopping!

Extra cash...no catch

Just a little something that I do from time to time to earn a few extra dollars. I am a avid reader and I NEVER read my books more than once. So they just sit on the shelf collecting dust. Well....that's what USED to happen...not anymore. I sell them here. Some books bring a bigger payout and of course some aren't accepted at all. You lose nothing. Even shipping is free via USPS. This is even upgraded with a big enough sell. Check it out! If you have books that are in decent condition that you want to get off your hands for a few dollars....this is the place to go!

All change isn't good!

Change when it's positive can be a wonderful thing! However, when a person changes (usually for all the wrong reasons) the outcome is very seldom a good one. For example, you shouldn't change for a potential mate. Be yourself....the TRUE you will surface at some point and all that you "worked" for will probably be lost. Why would you want to be with someone who doesn't like YOU for you??? That's just a set up for failure. Other times people change or shall I say put up a FRONT for an extended amount of time, but again....the true characteristics and personality will always resurface in one way or another. I have the gift of "smelling" bulls**t a mile away! And I'm happy for this sense. I've noticed quite a few people falling short of who they say they are or claim they are lately. You can only be fraudulent for so long. I'm just glad I have seen the light. People have changed BACK to old ways and it's sickening! But hey....that chick KARMA....she handles all that kinda stuff. Best believe she might not get you right away, but she's coming for you. BELIEVE THAT!!!